I have been getting quite a few gfs of mine telling me that what would happen to them after married.

When I was chatting with Nel, she told me that her bf "hinted" her that he is a career-minded person and would wish that his wife would be more family-oriented.

Family oriented means that the woman can stay at home to cook, take care of the kids and do housework while the man bring the bacon home.

A few weeks ago, when my wifey told me that her husband wanted her to stay home after giving birth, she is thrilled! Cos that was something she has ever wished for. I feel that joy as much as her!

Of cos, there are lots of women out there who disagree with the idea. They are more careerminded and some probably think that their qualification is way too high and would gone to waste by staying at home.

Like Nel, she feels that she wants to do business as much as she wants and likes to have a family of her own.

For me?

Being a homemaker was probably my mindset right from the start and I told my then-bf that I would settle for that and if he wants to accept it then marry me. Haaa! So I didn't get a chance to know if that's what he really wants for me nor I don't know what's his thoughts for it since I "ask for it". He may just settled for what I said instead of think about what he wants.

Some time back, we had a serious talk.

And he suddenly talks about how he feels that it is very important to grow up with the child and stay closely connected with our own kids. He wants our children to be close to family and grow up happily with parents-love as nowadays kids are not being brought up by own parents.

I was totally taken aback.

That is my man!!

(Ohya, then probably my qualification is too lowly to stay at job :p)

My senior came over my place some time back and chatted with a few others and me. I asked her if her grandchild goes back to her parents everynight or what.

She says No - Only on Friday night till Sunday.

Do you remember when was the first time your child learns to walk?

Do you remember the day when you child can talk?

Do you remember where is the place your child had his first fall?

All these which are money can't buy back the time for the first few years of their growing up.

Of course not all families can afford for a single income.

But what if you have the choice?

Her daughter gets comment from her office that if she gonna conceives a second child, she can forget about promotion in the company. (She earns a 5 digit income currently.) Quite a high post le. The higher you climb, the more you won't want to come down right...

My senior got a bit upset and says that the child will call you Mummy but the $$$ won't.

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My first birthday celebration as Mrs Tay. Of course Mr Tay gotta do something really nice to pamper his wife.


And yes, he really did.

We used the one night free wedding anniversary stay from our package that we signed last year. This is indeed the memorable place for both of us.


The familiar ballroom reception...

Raffles Town Club even gave us a complimentry Welcome Drink - “Raffles Rhapsody” very nice!

Thenafter, we check in to our room. With the plan in mind to go and shop at Orchard after putting our stuffs, we were both shocked when we checked out the suite.

Labels: My Valentine Paradise

Simmer for at least 1 1/2 hours.

Veggies - All washed and treated properly by Sharon
Chinese Cabbage
Little Bok Choy
Baby Kai Lan
Heng Cai

Meat
1. Fishball, cut half by Sharon
2. Hotdog, cut into 3 parts each by Sharon
3. Beef slices
4. Pork slice
5. Crab-ball
6. Meatball
7. Prawns, treated by Mel
8. Scallops
9. Sliced Fish


Mushroom Family
1. Button Mushroom
2. Golden Mushroom
3. "chao-gu" (mushroom)
4. "big fan-alike" mushroom

Okay, friends of mine all know that I don't like mushroom. So I have no idea what are their correct names!

Others
1. Tofu, cut into cubes
2. Baby Abalone
3. Bee Hoon (forgot to take out)
4. Tau pok

Dips
1. My Dad Dip (with minced garlic, red chilli, vinegar and soya sauce)

Yup, they deserved all our efforts! Way before we start our renovation, they have been pressing on us to tell us what they will buy for us and what they can buy for us so that they won't get us gifts that we don't need and it's the choice of what we want. Heart all of them! A big thank you once again!

And also to my parents who aren't joining for the dinner, but woke up at 8am with us to go to the market and help us choose the fresh prawns, fishes, fishballs, veggies and etc.

All the way till 11am and I was already exhausted. This is parents love. Heh!

At 3pm, the kitchen is all ready!

Oooooh... I have not see my fridge been this filled up! I was so happy and excited seeing this!

Dining is ready!

Pot is ready!

Labels: My Friends Faculty, My Girls Wonderland, My Valentine Paradise

Written By Refgina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:"

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

25. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ''In five years, will this matter?".

26. Always choose life.

27. Forgive everyone everything.

28. What other people think of you is none of your business..

29. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.

30. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

31. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

32. Believe in miracles.

33. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

34. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

35. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

36. Your children get only one childhood.

37. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

38. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

39. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

40. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

41. The best is yet to come.

42. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

43. Yield.

44. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

There - the girl who caught my bouquet this January. We are going to tear down the club and rock the night away!

I'm sorry babe, this is what Nana wrote and I want to post it here, because I really LOVE IT!

WE RE GONNA SHUT IT DOWN - TO MY Jills aka MRS LEE!, My girls Sharon, Celine, Ah WOW, Sarahdee, Cherry, Cindy + ppl who I dont know sorry! WE RE GONNA KILL JILLS THIS SATURDAY BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KILL! LITERALLY KILL!!!!!!!! An ass like me, Jills b...abe you can't get away! Don't worry Leo we'll take care of your future wife :) you're gonna forget your name, your mum's name, your dog's name and your hubby's name! and if you get drunkard before 1am I will leave you lying on the mainfloor with your undies exposed and shit! and ppl would be like "EEHHH why that girl drunk till like that" Then we will stand there take pictures of you LOL Wohahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah oh baby!!! THIS HEN's NIGHT IS GONNA BE THE SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

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So the night has finally arrived. The night we spent lots of time discussing and planning and almost gave the plan away.

There - our bitchy bride 2 be - all dressed up and ready!

Off we go to Phuture! And our bride to be is getting very very nervous!

Better take pics first before she's drunk!

Labels: My Girls Wonderland

My (FINALLY) good meal after my tooth extraction. Woots! Even most of us here have already left the previous working place, we still keep in touch so much so that they are often being missed by me.

Life is great with great colleagues-turn-friends at work. Cos they are the ones that I actually spent most of my day with. We need to have great pals around.

I was about to give up. On my life, on my route, as I see myself heading to nowhere. Then, Alicia babe told me about her one of the greatest decision that she had made. It totally shocked me and I'm truly inspired by this girl.

She's one with a great heart, a great ambition and most of all, great courage to go with what she wants. Of cos, it was a very tough moment for her and I'm so proud of her that she did it. I wanted to make such a move (but a different agenda) but I must have a push for it. Babe, your news came at the right time. The right time when I wanted to give up my life. Thanks dear.

And of cos, such decision of mine won't come true if my husband chose not to stand by me. What can I say, he is really the greatest guy in the world I can ever asked for. He is the one whom encourage me, the one who supports me, the one who put my decision into actions for me and willing to do anything for me. It is surprising. I find it unbelievable. He's too good to be true. I really love you, darling.

I had my 1st wisdom tooth pulled out last year May. I witness everything that the dentist did to me. The equipments that he used was so huge in my view and the strength that he used makes me want to faint.

It started when I experienced pain and it affects my sleep as I even woke up in the middle of the night from the sharp discomfort of my teeth and gum which I feel like tearing my mouth apart.

During that extraction moment, the dentist did quite awhile to pull out the tooth. He suggested me to go under general anaesthetic (GA) for extracting 4 at one go. Wah.. Think v easy huh... To extract all 4.

He explained that my bottom 2 are the complicated ones. As both are laying down, need to go through operation. He suggested that I should remove all 4 together.


I start to imagine if I will die of pain after the local anaesthetic (LA) wears off. So I decided to pull out the decayed tooth first.

I can't remember what was that feeling. Or rather, I don't want to think about it.

Last year December, when I went to do my teeth cleaning, the dentist says he will give me only 3 months more for my upper tooth to be extracted and max 6 months for the bottom ones.

Okay... So I drag and drag because the thought of it makes me scared. The deadline is supposed to be this year May / June but I was tied up (excuse?) and then after I moved house and I forgot about it.

So then, I started to feel the pain again. No choice, I fixed the appointment with consideration of settling my work, planning for the dates of my wifey's hen's party, wedding day and my birthday. Better keep the extraction with a bit of distance from those events.

A few weeks ago, my cousin Amy gave me the courage as she said that everything is okay as she went under general anaesthetic and have 3 of hers all removed. I made up my mind somehow that I shall go through GA and pull out the remaining 3 but then, she talked abt the jab of the GA is fpain. =( I got so terrified and started to discuss with my colleagues.

Hazel was working at a dental clinic before and explained that normally dentist will suggest GA if the operation is near nerves. Or not, she won't encourage me to do GA as it's not good for health. She says I can go through it just with LA.

Then Farhana and Nellie assured me that how easy was their operation process and it gave me huge encouragement to go for it. I watched xiaxue's entry on her wisdom tooth extraction again and she pulled out all 4 under LA! She was like doing good lor!

But she did say it's horrible thenafter. So I decided to just remove the 2 teeth of my left side. I already can't tell which side is giving me trouble now as the pain just spread across the whole set of teeth and gum.

The appointment was fixed on Tuesday. Starting from Sunday, I couldn't get to sleep at night. I was wide awake at 2am feeling horrible.

Then Monday, I don't feel like sleeping as I don't want Tuesday to come. That night, I still requested to have KFC for dinner =P

Argh... So finally, the morning before the op, I finished up a bowl of noodle and it was so yummy! When it's time to go to the dental, I dragged my feet out of the door and into the car. The moment I reached the clinic, I was already shaking.

So, on the dental chair, I trembled without able to control myself. And I blamed the air-con. I asked the dentist if my tooth is near the nerves? He says No. So okay, I can go ahead with LA to do the op. Before his jab, I stopped him and tell him I can't swallow pills, and asked him if I need to the painkiller first. He says Later.

The first jab wasn't that pain, but the 2nd and the 3rd ones are. I think he gave me 4 or 5 jabs? Think it depends on where he's injecting then it will be painful. As I have a seriously low pain threshold, I find the jabs are okay. And ya, I'm still shaking.

After chewing and swallowed the painkiller, we have to wait for a few minutes for the LA to take effect. Have to wait till the tongue, lips and chin to be numbed.

Then they blindfolded me.

And all I heard was the drilling, sawing, drilling and sawing. Halfway through, I feel pain and I made some noise, the dentist asked if I was feeling pain, I nodded and he gave me another jab =_="

Thenafter, although the sounds were unbearable, it wasn't painful at all and once he started the op, strangely, my body stopped shaking.

But I hate the pulling part. The sawing part was okay just that the noise is unpleasant. But I can feel like he needs to do alot of strength to remove the tooth. So it's like to make the tooth loose, it didn't succeed and he needs to saw again. Then loosen again, the tooth not out, he saw again =(

When it's ready to pull, he will tell me that I will hear a 'click' sound. It's like forever for me to hear that sound lor. And when I thought it's done, he continued to saw again. Argh! When will it end??

I keep hearing the dentist telling the assistant to pass him more tools. Makes me start thinking that my op have some complication somewhere and it wasn't what he expected that he gotta redo it or whatever. I feel like shitting in my pants liao lor.

Okay, I think the whole process took like 20 mins!!

When he FINALLY say its done, he starts to inject LA for the upper tooth. And he starts to sew up the opening. I hate to imagine how it's done.

Ohya, before the op, I asked him if the op will be fast? He replied me that the lower one will be faster than the upper one. waaah... And I thought I remember that time it took quite long for my upper tooth leh.

When he said that he's ready to pull the upper one. I was telling myself that I'm gonna be so dead. I wanna tell him that I don't want to pull liao, cos the op took 20 mins and the upper one will take longer, I think I will just faint before he starts to do it.

Before I know, he already put his tool on my tooth. And before I know it, he said it's DONE!

So happy! It's like less than 3 minutes for the upper tooth to come out. I didn't remember it to be so fast for my first extraction last year.

So when he says everything is over and done. And the first thing that I said was "I don't want to take out the last one le"

He just laughed and say it's a must. Sianz...

Then I "scolded" him - "You said the lower tooth is faster than the upper one!!!"

And he just laughed. Argh!

So then, I managed to go home with Mel holding me.

The stupid 3rd molar - (ya, it's decayed) YUCKZ~! This is the upper tooth. The bottom one are smashed into pieces which I can't bring it back.


The stitch. I wonder what's that black spot there. A blood clot? (ya, there's still blood) And if I continue to drag longer, it will affect the 2nd molar (the tooth besides the wisdom tooth) to decay too.